For those who don’t know, I work as a professional performance artist specialising in slapstick comedy, much like Mr. Bean. Over the past four decades, I’ve performed my buffoonery lectures and shows worldwide. I’ve spent more than half of my time in the Far East and India, and I’ve also performed at the only Moulin Rouge French Cabaret in China, as well as high-class hotels, international schools, universities, and for countless country ambassadors, diplomats, and even royalty...
Hypocrisy.
I feel compelled to share my thoughts after hearing a recent radio report about how men in Britain are increasingly hesitant to work with children...
First written by me in September 2013, here’s a quote from a lady who was the chairperson of a large women’s organisation: “We cannot support your cause because you are a ‘MAN’ who is often in contact with vulnerable children.”...
That was said directly to me a few months after I had spent an afternoon with some of the ladies’ fellow committee members at an extended lunch aboard a floating restaurant anchored by the riverside close to the famous Bridge over the River Kwai...
However, following a long period of not responding to emails and calls after that tipsy meeting, the hypocrisy of all their high-flying offers started to show its ugly face...
Pitfalls.
Here’s a more detailed guide to what I could have achieved to help hundreds of poor children. If those ladies had bothered to check my background...
It’s probably important to know I was then, and still, now, a single man who’s been married a few times with grown-up children and a whole bunch of grandchildren and great-grandchildren...
As already mentioned, a few years ago, I was privileged to be invited to work as a volunteer operative with an organisation set up for the sole purpose of catching the bad guys...
Even with such a respectable history, I am still a ‘MAN’ working with some not-so-vulnerable and some very vulnerable children in Southeast Asia...
Another reason for this article started in 2013. Any British people reading this will know about the well-known UK millionaire and third-rate TV personality Jimmy Savile, Rolf Harris...
Though I have never been abused by Jimmy Savile or any other high-profile paedophiles, I am nevertheless a survivor of child sexual abuse and rape from the age of six to thirteen...
Quotes from my TV documentary focusing on what happened to me: “I was an innocent child. Those men who abused me were not!”...
Many people think that abused children automatically become abusers themselves. I also believe that’s true of a large percentage of victims of child sex, violence, or mental abuse...
In my case, it took me until my early 40s to realise the profound impact of what had happened to me...
I understood that I had become an angry (never violent), possessive, and dismissive husband to the woman I loved the most, and that’s why she left...
I’m now pleased to know that, at least, she settled well and happily with a new husband and two children...
Details of what happened to me will soon be published in another article/book aimed at helping survivors of child sexual abuse.
Now, I am finally free from depression, drug and alcohol addictions, and the constant search for love with numerous potential partners. All the miserable feelings and suicidal thoughts that many survivors must fight off are no longer part of my life. I am genuinely content and happy with life.
Along with many others in teaching, nursing, and other professions that involve working with children, we are still profoundly affected by the revelations about Savile, Harris, and several others who have been charged with crimes of abuse against children. Unlike Savile and his associates, I have always made it a point never to be alone with any child in my care, and I always have all the correct, verifiable CRB certificates required by law to work with children. Despite this, I still find that some people’s preconceived ideas about ‘MALES’ who work with children have turned my personal struggle to establish and maintain my own good name into an uphill and time-consuming task.
I’m getting tired of having to justify my existence as a single man who works with children simply because I genuinely enjoy seeing innocent little human beings appreciate all the years of hard work I had to go through to become good at what I do for them. “If I were a woman, I’m sure no one would give it a second thought.” But I’m a ‘MAN’, so I suppose I just have to accept that some people are always going to read something nasty into whatever I do when I’m in contact with children.
As already hinted, I’m now finally happy and settled with the new love of my life. She’s not a woman or a man, a child, a god, a fast car, or even a pet. My total dedication is now the love of giving something I’m good at giving. I simply provide essential needs to poor children and their parents if they have any. I receive more pleasure from sharing this than I could ever have imagined when those nasty perverts were doing their best to destroy any goodness that could have developed when I was a child myself.
Indeed, my life has become a nonstop mission to provide essential moments of joy to those great little kids who otherwise receive very little joy in their lives. So, no amount of backstabbing comments about what I may be up to when giving my heart and soul to those poor little blighters is ever going to stop me from doing what I do best. Quite simply showing them that men can be good guys sometimes.
Now, it’s entirely up to readers of this article to decide how to think of me as an honest Joe or just another lying, sad little paedophile trying to cover his own tracks. In the end, I am the only one who really knows the truth. And being that person, I know that while I am alive and when I’m dead, No one will ever be able to call me another one of those subhumans that deserve the title of ‘Child Sex Abuser’.
The whole point of this statement is to try and show whoever reads it (and some ladies) that not all men are paedophiles just because they work with children, and even we survivors of child sex abuse don’t all end up doing the same as our abusers. In fact, some of us end up making sure that children we have the privilege to know and work with are all given the opportunity to see that not all ‘MEN’ are after their innocent little bodies or minds!
So, please spare a thought for those of us who have survived being abused without becoming offenders ourselves. And consider that some of us have even made it our true mission in life to help, protect and make happy the innocent children of this world. Despite those morons we read about, I genuinely believe that men can and should work with children... Really!
Finally, I can’t leave this without saying. Thanks for nothing, Jimmy Savile, Gary Glitter, Stewart Hall, Rolf Harris and all the other sad little celebrity child abusers! You had wealth, fame and power. Why did you need to take those children’s innocent lives as well, you selfish little worms?
